RE: UK vs US Close >> Wednesday18 Apr 2024 16:37
Funerals are never easy. You’re right Topo. Most of the time you’re going in blind, unless the Funeral Director has some insights. You’ll hear lots of clergy talking about “going into a role” and in some ways a collar helps with that. I defy any clergyperson to say that can sit entirely aloof from emotion, though. It is less difficult when leading the service but most difficult when talking to family. Can be an emotional minefield - there are times when clearly what a person needs is just a hug. Can’t do that, though, especially if alone. So, a fine line has to be trodden. I always offer to pray with folk. I think that is pretty much expected - it’s part of “the job”! Whatever people’s faith I have never been asked not to pray.
In the end, the service is for the folk left behind. Whatever is in the coffin is not the person they knew! That is often when the reality of the loss hits home.
B