RE: RESPECT19 Oct 2024 14:51
Dear Lynette.
Hope you've managed to get some rest, exercise and food.
My 1st experience of greive was 1 week after my 17th birthday in May and a
week before my sisters when our dad died. I was very stoic about it but my sister was really weeping and wailing which I found annoying. I repressed everything
so much I didnt even go to the funeral. The result? I had to face up to it eventually of course which was just before Christmas, by which time my sis had co evto terms with her loss and I had to start. The lesson for me is that carrying the guilt of being annoyed at my sister for expressing her grief I still carry to this day. Also the shame of missing the funeral and not supporting my mum and sisters still lingers with me.
So please don't repress your feelings Lynette, true friends and family don't just laugh with you but they cry with you as well.
Take care, kind regards
P