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Having to be cared for is hard. Being a carer is hard. Sometimes it can seem too much and as an unjust thing as can be. For carers there are all sorts of mixed emotions, oft times wishing for an end to it whilst not wanting to say goodbye. For those being looked after it the last thing they would have wanted to impose on those they love. Ultimately though, wherever you find yourself do your best, but remember to take time for your own life and those loved ones that just need you. Not an easy balance, but in my experience doing the right thing by others brings other rewards. Keep strong, you never know who is going to need you and good luck to all those caring or helping with loved ones.
We have a lovely lady three doors away just 70 now who for the last ten years no idea who her three daughters, husband and grandchildren are . The girls have been operating a three shift system of looking after mam and each others families for most of those years. She bites and scratches them sometimes and yet can sing along to any song or hynm.
They have a unconditional love for thier mother which suggests to me the age of miracles is alive and well ..
They are the happiest family I know ..
Keith borrowed a chunk on the house five years back and took them all to Disney in the states.
He got cancer last year and the bubble of love just got even bigger.
Amazing how no matter how dark it gets, the light always cuts through.
Thank you Getinthere. I meant to include that at just 65 he is the oldest in his care home.
Idontdoes
I’m sorry to hear about your brother mate and wish him, you and all of his and your family all the best,
I think that the posts on here today have shown just how widespread and horrible this disease truly is, whilst more prevalent in those over 50 it affects all ages and is devastating.
My younger brother is the oldest in his dementia care home. The youngest is a young lady just 28! My brother no longer knows me but fortunately at this stage still recognises his wife and daughter. His is a variant of that suffered by Terry Jones. It is a truly terrible disease that affects all sufferers differently.
Devilsbeast
I’ve just read your post having looked in without logging on first.
I genuinely wish your mum all the best and I wish you and all of her family and friends the same, it is a horrible disease that takes the sufferers memories and dignity from them and thereby takes the individuals away from their families and friends who can do nothing to stop the inevitable and who therefore feel helpless as the good days become fewer and fewer as time goes on. It’s truly horrible.
Franny
Blimmin awful mate sorry to hear that.
My old man suffering with it, he's 84. Really tough for family living with it day in day out too. I don't see him that often. Grim.
Richard
54 is no age at all, it’s horrible mate I’m sorry for your and your friends loss.
My friends brother died yesterday of Dementia and he was only 54. Sad day.